Sure, the owner with the more expensive car to repair will probably give up first, but the actual extension in lifetime for the less expensive car to repair is marginal at best.
This does not follow. One of the circumstances when old cars get scrapped is when a major fails component fails and the cost to repair exceeds the value of the car (i.e., mechanically totaled). As cars depreciate with time and use, cheaper the repairs, older the point where it would get mechanically totaled.
If we look at the technologies that actually reduce emissions in ICE cars, many of them may actually also increase the longevity of the car.
Absolutely, categorically no. No emission compliance equipment ever improved the car performance, longevity or made it cheaper. The closest would be fuel injection, but early mechanical injection systems were a nightmare to maintain, it is only much later when electronically controlled injection was developed by Bosch did things improve over carbureted engines.
Typical development cycle of emission equipment is: 1) unreliable expensive crap that nobody wants, 2) unreliable inexpensive crap that nobody wants, 3) somewhat reliable inexpensive crap that nobody cares about.
Now, the actual emissions cost of scrapping a car is irrelevant to this conversation
Using this logic, then tailpipe emissions are also irrelevant.
Still though, I also wanted to consider the what it actually takes to, for example, melt a car.
Go visit a junk yard. It is ecological disaster all around. We only pretend that cars get recycled, the reality that plastic, rubber, glass are not.